How do you deserve to be treated?
How do you deserve to be treated?
In short. the answer to this question is; you deserve to be treated absolutely amazingly! So why do so many people end up in negative relationships, and not being treated with all the love that they deserve? Well, the reason can stem from a multiple of reasons, but ultimately it all comes down to your self esteem. What do you think you are worth and how do you think you deserve to be treated?
We often grow up being told that your standards are too high, you want too much, your never going to get what you want. But says who? Well the person who is telling you this probably feels this away about themselves, and was never treated the way they wanted to be treated. What they do is reflect their own self-doubt, and negative self belief on you, encouraging you to believe that it is true for you too. Trust me, I know. I was told by many people all my life that I wanted too much, expect too much and that my standards are too high. They were reflecting what they never had on me, but I never believed what they said was true, and to this day I don't believe it, because guess what? It is not true.
Be treated with respect
You CAN be treated with the utmost love, respect, thought, kindness and consideration and you totally deserve this. The reason you don't have this is because you believe you can't have it. That you can't have a friend, a lover, a colleague, a family member that treats you the way you want to be treated.
Everyones expectations, needs, wants and desires are different. Just because your friend wants something from a partner, this does not mean it is what you need to think, believe or want. The same goes for you. Your friend does not need to agree with what you want, need or desire. They are your own needs, wants and desires and you have every right to follow, believe and have them.
So how do you have relationships where you are treated how you want to be treated? Well my lovelies, you got to believe. That really is it, It really is that simple, but I know it is not that easy. It takes a lot of practice, repetition and is a process. Changing your belief system is totally possible, and there are countless ways to do this.
How to gain respect?
Your limiting beliefs are the only things that are stopping you from being treated the way you want to be treated and earn the respect you deserve. So how do you begin to change what you believe?
1. Take a really honest look of what your current beliefs are.
2. Ask yourself if any of those beliefs are true.
3. Write down what you want your new beliefs to be.
4. Put these new beliefs on the fridge, on your bedside cabinet, as a reminder on your phone, or any other place you will regularly see.
5. Every time you see it, repeat, repeat and repeat it again.
6. While you repeat it, really listen to this words you are saying, and connect to the truth in them.
Being treated with all the love you want comes from really loving yourself, meaning knowing your worth, and really feeling it. I know what it feels like to not feel that, but now I also know what it feels like to feel like I can be treated how I want, and only stay in relationships that are serving me.
Building your self-esteem is a process, and something I am super passionate about. If you want to start loving yourself more, building your self-esteem, and being treated how you deserve to be treated get in contact for more activities, guidance and support.
Remember, what you deserve, because you deserve everything you want!
Lot of love,
Your Coach,
Sirin xxx